SHAH ABDUL WAHAB

When it comes to success, it’s easy to think that people blessed with brains are inevitably going to leave the rest of us in the dust. But new research from Stanford University will change your mind (and your attitude). Psychologist Carol Dweck has spent her entire career studying attitude and performance, and her latest study shows that your attitude is a better predictor of your success than your IQ. Dweck found that people’s core attitudes fall into one of two categories: a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. With a fixed mindset, you believe you are who you are and you cannot change. This creates problems when you’re challenged because anything that appears to be more than you can handle is bound to make you feel hopeless and overwhelmed. People with a growth mindset believe that they can improve with effort. They outperform those with a fixed mindset, even when they have a lower IQ, because they embrace challenges, treating them as opportunities to learn somet...

ایک پرنسپل کا اپنے طالب علموں کے والدین کے نام ایک خط..!!  ہم جانتے ہیں کے آپ کے لیے آپ کے بچوں کا مستقبل کتنا ضروری ہے۔ اور آپ اس کے لیے بہت زیادہ فکر مند بھی ہوتے ہیں۔ مگر یاد رکھیں کچھ ہفتوں میں جب آپ کے بچوں کے امتحان ہونگے تو ان میں کچھ بچھے ایسے ہونگے جنکو حساب سمجھ میں نہ آتی ہو۔۔ شاید ایسا میوزیشن ہو جسکی کیمیسٹری بہت خراب ہو اور اس کیلیے اہمیت بھی نہ رکھتے ہوں۔۔ شاید کوئی ایسی کاروباری شخصیت بیٹھی ہو جسکو تاریخ میں کوئی لگائو ہی نہ ہو۔۔ بہت سارے ایسے ایتلیتز ہوں جنکی جسمانی غزاء ان نمبروں سے کہی زیادہ اہم ہو۔۔ اگر آپ کا بچہ اس امتحان میں اچھے  نمبروں سے پاس ہوجاتا ہے تو بہت اچھی بات ہے ، اگر ایسا نہ ہو کم نمبرز سے پاس ہو یا شاید فیل ہو جائے  تو ان سے ان کی خود اعتمادی اور خواب مت چھیننا ۔ ان کو بول کے دیکھیئے گا کے آپ اب بھی ان سے انتا ہی پیار کرتے ہیں ۔ ان کو بول کے دیکھیے گا کہ یہ ایک امتحان ہیں اور دنیا میں ایسے بہت سے امتحان آئنگے ۔۔ آپ صرف انسے یہ بول کے دیکھیے گا کہ تمارے مارکز سے زیادہ اہم ہے تمھاری  خوشی۔۔ اور ان پہ صرف یقین کرکے دھیکیے گا ا...

We sometime don’t think about ourselves and think on this sentence “what people will think and say” which is big problem for us. Many question arises which we don’t think of i.e. what is good for us? What think will get us to benefit? Besides these question we think “what people will think and say”? Mostly each of our progress, inspiration, motivation has a source of hidden story behind, and to achieve that we need to be very motivated, inspire and to show up bravely. But we often hear these kinds of sentence from our friends, our parents and peers that “what people will think and say” Become a Doctor or Engineer because these people feel happy and survive in this universe. If you don’t made it then “what people will say”? If you do something different then “what people will say”? If you go for Art or Humanities then “what people will say”? If boy/girl, he or she chose their partner then “what people will say”? How have dressed up? “What people will say”? How are you behaving ? “w...

We live in a country where we taught to respect the human being and to obey the ordered presented through angel by ALLAH as an Islamic residence of a country Pakistan. But very sadly we observed that the individuals are only focusing on their selves getting fame, needing security, holding power etc., the only purpose is show off. The reason behind writing on this is an observation of a country Pakistan, where we started breathing, learned norms & values, following rituals, practicing religion, adjust in an environment with same attitude, behavior and life style. The central point is we practice these things but not on ourselves want be implemented through us by other that would give us benefit. We are living in a country where these things are happening. After observing last two weeks of August (After 14 August), after the event of 14 th August 2017 saw so many irrelevant things by fake Pakistani lovers i.e. applying flag on face, waving on motorcycles, applying on cars,...

DOUBLE STANDARD It's not that hard to know that we live in a society where double standards are at the core of everything, we will want an educated wife and not allow her to work, we will want good politicians but won't want our kids to be the one's to change the systems in place cause it too risky, we will make fun of our cricket team and expect them to give us our best, we call male/female instrument of pleasure for many models and a loved while if they becomes instrument of pleasure to one they become an escort/prostitute and a symbol of hate. In fact we use religion too as a tool to emotional blackmail, exploit and win arguments may it be personal or political.   We will have to start thinking, because if we don't have the ability to think then 100 years of freedom wouldn't bring us any good. Shah Abdul Wahab

How I grew up taking Religion for granted - Maybe you did too?                                         1. Beta Lying is bad but if that specific uncle shows up, tell him I am not at home. (So indirectly we communicate lying can be practiced if we want to or feel like it.) 2. Sharam Nahi Aati Kya Dekh Rahey Ho?! (Don't you dare to look at me) and then we have to wait for a family shaadi to see exactly the things we were told not to see. 3. Beta we should follow Sunnah & the Holy Quran to guide us with life. Me: I want t get married yara! Dad: Yea just get established and settled finically first phir dekhte hain. (Get establish financially then we will see) 4. Rizk Aur Maut Maqarar Hai (Food & Death is in the hand of destiny) BUT beta becomes a doctor, they earn more and if th...

Hi! Peeps all cool! So, today I am writing about a boy who started his life under his strict PATHAN father. His father wish was my all sons and daughters should be Hafiz-e-Quran, but sometimes you have not kind of skills to cop up with situations besides this when ALLAH gives you children that become challenge for you, we called it sometime examination by ALLAH to Human being. So the story is about a guy son of same person discussed above. He was dump and deaf about his life, his plan were to do the same as his father is giving order, he constantly listening to these sentences like (What your parents think is better for you if that is not in your power). Because everyone has his own capabilities and ALLAH has send all of us with different features. The life starts with schooling when he was 4 years, the first son of family, many responsibilities to be given. Starts with schooling and Madrasa, he continues both being in school and also prepares to become Hafiz. For Hifz he left scho...